Understanding Nonbinary & Gender Identity

Most societies, especially in modern Western cultures, recognize only two genders: male and female. But not everyone fits into these two categories.

Nonbinary people or transgender children may have gender identities that exist outside or in between the male and female binary. Some may call themselves gender fluid, gender expansive, genderqueer, or use other words that better match how they feel.

To keep things simple and inclusive, and because many young people use it, we mostly use the word nonbinary on this page.

At LPSC, we support trans youth because we believe every child deserves to be seen, accepted, and celebrated.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Nonbinary means someone’s gender identity doesn’t fit fully into “male” or “female.”
    A nonbinary person might feel like both, neither, or somewhere in between. It’s a broad term, and each person’s experience is different.

  • Yes. Gender identity (who you are) and sexual orientation (who you’re attracted to) are different.
    A nonbinary person can be straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, or identify in another way.

    For example, a nonbinary person who is attracted to men might call themselves straight.


  • There’s no single way to look or act nonbinary.
    The best thing to do is ask for and use someone’s name and pronouns.
    If your child, student, or someone you know says they are nonbinary, believe them. Listening with kindness and without judgment is the most important first step.

    • Gender identity is how you feel inside, like male, female, both, neither, or something else.

    • Gender expression is how you show your identity on the outside through clothes, hairstyle, voice, and behavior.

    A nonbinary person might express their gender in different ways that feel right to them.


      • Use their chosen name and pronouns

      • Learn more about gender diversity

      • Speak up for safe, inclusive spaces in schools and healthcare

      • Join support groups for yourself and your child

      Show love, respect, and patience as they explore their identity

  • There’s no test to tell you if you’re nonbinary. It’s something you learn about yourself over time.
    You might feel that labels like “boy” or “girl” don’t fully fit who you are. Maybe you feel like both, neither, or something that changes.
    Some people realize this when they’re young. Others find out after trying new pronouns, exploring their feelings, or talking to supportive people.

    The most important thing is that you get to decide who you are. No one else can do that for you.

  • Children show their gender identity in different ways. Some possible signs that a child may be nonbinary include:

    • Not feeling comfortable being called a boy or a girl

    • Asking to use gender-neutral pronouns like they/them

    • Choosing clothes, names, or activities usually linked to another gender

    • Saying they feel “in between” or not fully male or female

    • Getting upset when told to act a certain way because of their gender

    But remember, every child is different. What matters most is giving your child a safe and loving space where they can explore and express who they are without judgment or pressure.

Let’s Support the Transgender and Nonbinary Community Together

Every child deserves support, respect, and love. Let’s listen, learn, and create a world where all young people feel seen and valued. Every contribution helps us uplift and advocate for transgender and nonbinary children and their families.